Anger can lead to physical and psychological problems. Learn how to
control anger by using some anger management techniques Anger is the main ingredient for all the recipes of
problem, distress and failure. Though it is very difficult to control anger, sometimes, it is very simple learning to control anger.
It is not just you; all human beings face the problem of managing anger
10 Powerful Ways to Deal with Anger
1. When you are angry say nothing.
If we
speak in anger we will definitely aggravate the situation and quite likely hurt
the feelings of others. If we speak in anger we will find that people respond
in kind, creating a spiral of negative anger. If we can remain outwardly silent
it gives time for the emotion of anger to leave us.“When angry count to ten before you speak. If
very angry, count to one hundred. “- Thomas Jefferson
2. Be indifferent to
those who seek to make us angry.
Some people may unfortunately
take a malicious pleasure in trying to make you mad. However, if we can feel
indifferent to them and their words; if we feel it is beyond our dignity to
even acknowledge them, then their words and actions will have no effect. Also,
if we do not respond in any way to their provocation, they will lose interest
and not bother us in the future.
3. Use reason to stop anger.
When
we feel anger coming to the fore try to take a step back and say to yourself
“This anger will not help me in any way. This anger will make the situation
worse.” Even if part of us remains angry our inner voice is helping us to
distance our self from the emotion of anger.
4.
Look kindly upon others.
If
you think of the other person as a helpless 5 year old child your compassion
and forgiveness will come to the fore. If your baby brother accidentally
stabbed you, you would not feel anger and desire to retaliate. Instead, you
would just feel he is just too young to know any better. This exercise may be
particularly useful for close members of the family who at times evoke your
anger.
5. Value Peace more than anger.
If we value peace of mind as our most important
treasure we will not allow anger to remain in our system. As Sri Chinmoy says:
“You may have every right to be angry with someone, but you know
that by getting angry with him you will only lose your precious peace of
mind..”
6. Always try to understand those who are cross.
Don’t
worry about feeling the need to defend yourself from their criticisms. If you
can remain detached and calm they may begin to feel guilty about venting their
anger on you. Inspired by your example of calmness, they will seek
subconsciously to do the same.
7. Focus on Something Completely Different.
Suppose
someone has done something to make you angry. Think about something which will
make you happy. The best antidote to negativity is to focus on the positive.
8. Breathe Deeply.
The
simple act of breathing deeply will help considerably with removing anger.
9. Meditation.
Practice meditation regularly to bring your
inner peace to the fore. If we can have an inner access to our inner peace we
will be able to draw upon this during testing time
10. Smile
When
we smile we defuse many negative situations. To smile is offer goodwill to
others. Smiling costs nothing but can effectively defuse tense situations.
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(This
article is written by Neha Mittal, Faculty – Management, NIMS)
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